Searching for Answers: A 1993 Chinese Adoptee’s Journey
(Shared on behalf of adoptee Alison)
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This video was first shared a year ago on WeChat, where it received over 130,000 views and more than 2,500 comments. Sadly, no meaningful leads emerged.
Many have asked: Why would someone who was abandoned or trafficked — and later adopted abroad — want to search for their birth parents?
For me, it’s about reclaiming my identity. No matter how painful the truth may be, I know I’ll regret it forever if I don’t try.
There’s a missing piece in my life — and I’m finally ready to face whatever may come, even the worst. I’ve heard all kinds of theories: that I was born outside of marriage, that I might have a brother, that my parents were migrant workers living near Shanghai, or that I was kidnapped — which might explain the scar on my ankle. Some even believe the scar was left on purpose, as a mark to one day help identify me.
To those who may not understand: I’m not angry.
I believe my birth parents made the best choice they could at the time.
I just want them to know — I’m doing well.
I forgive them.
And most of all, I’m ready to know the truth.
Some say I look Han Chinese, possibly from Anhui, Henan, or other provinces — not from Shanghai. If that could be true, please help share this video. Every repost helps bring this story closer to where it needs to go.
🙏 Thank you for being part of this journey.
帮助一位1993年的中国收养者寻找答案
（转载至被收养者Alison）
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这段视频在一年前首次发布在微信后台，当时获得了13万次观看和2500条评论，但遗憾的是没有带来任何线索。很多人问，为什么那些被拐卖或遗弃、后来被国外收养的adoptees想要寻找亲生父母。对我来说，这是为了找回自己的身份——无论真相多么残酷。我唯一的遗憾就是如果没有尽全力去寻找。
我生命中有一块缺失的拼图，我已经做好准备去面对一切——哪怕是最坏的情况。我听过各种猜测：比如我是非婚生子，有一个兄弟，我的父母是住在上海附近的打工者，或者我曾被绑架——这些也许解释了我脚踝上的伤疤。还有人说，那些伤痕可能是父母故意留下的标记，希望有一天能认出我。
对于那些无法理解的人：我并不生气。我相信我的亲生父母当时做了他们认为最好的选择。我只想让他们知道我现在很好，我原谅他们，最重要的是——我已经准备好面对真相。
有人说我长得像汉族人，或者来自安徽、河南等地，而不是上海。如果真是这样，请帮忙转发这个视频，让它传到那些地方。