Why don’t we adopt disabled orphans?
A well worth reading article self-criticizing why Chinese are less willing to adopt disabled orphans!!!
Why don’t we adopt disabled orphans?
07:51 BST+7, 13 May, 2013 China Youth Daily
(Original article in Chinese: http://opinion.cn.yahoo.com/ypen/20130513/1738627.html)
Original title: Why don’t we adopt disabled orphans? (Tencent- Review-Current Politics/Society)
Actually, philanthropy showed by most Chinese people is an action of self-satisfaction. On my part, there was no big jump ahead when people were being kind in the devastating Wenchuan earthquake. The need of self-realization remains in people’s hearts, and they try to meet it. For example, when the kind-hearted people were filling the adoption forms, many of them preferred younger children who were under three years old. And it would be better if the children were without disabilities and were girls.
There was no denying that China embodied a different image after the earthquake. However, when the media and the critics were exploring, explaining and exaggerating the benevolent actions, it was urgent for us to have calm and objective reflection on the deeds.
Although the unorganized volunteers were not encouraged to enter the disaster areas, the celebrities could always break the barriers to go wherever they wanted. We were not sure about their real intentions: offering care or showing off their kindness. In my hometown, citizens were not allowed to visit the patients transferred from the earthquake-stricken areas in order to guarantee their rest and the gifts could only be left in the hospitals. However, someone managed to pull the strings to visit the wards and gave the presents in person.
Obviously, in the campaign of national disaster relief, some people made use of their privileges to meet a certain demand —- being merciful to others.
From this perspective, expressing philanthropy, love and nobility is a demand rooted in our blood, which is as common as eating and drinking. While it had been covered by the strong drive for materials, the earthquake awoke the 1.3 billion to feel its existence. Therefore, the kindness was not as noble as we thought; instead, it was just a popular demand. One netizen once said, “The transition does not target the hardships in reality but the sense of self-accomplishment in psyche”.
Actually, philanthropy showed by most Chinese people is an action of self-satisfaction. On my part, there was no big jump ahead when people were being kind in the devastating Wenchuan earthquake. The need of self-realization remains in people’s hearts, and they try to meet it. For example, helping the old to cross the road, sending clothes to the poor relatives or finance one child to complete his/her study, etc. The earthquake further and more deeply stimulated people’s demand, which was far from not being related with self-satisfaction.
A simple example would be that the newspaper agency I was working in organised a campaign to adopt the orphans in Wenchuan. More than 2000 people signed up for it and the hotline was too busy to get through, which fully revealed people’s passion and love. However, what was behind that? We sighed and asked why no one ever thought about adopting an orphan in the children welfare association in Guiyang, a southwest city in China. The children there need home and care as well, but they have never received so much attention.
When reading the adoption forms, many people preferred younger children who were under three years old. And it would be better if they were without disabilities and were girls.
Was that because they did some favour to the children in Wenchuan? No. They did not want to adopt someone who was disabled or already mentally mature. The love they offered was within the boundary of “self-achievement”, and the Chinese society is still at the initial stage of philanthropy.
It is no wonder that the foreign media regard Chinese as lack of love because they are never willing to adopt disabled children. I watched an American documentary titled My Flesh and Blood, wherein the mom adopted eleven disabled children. Two of the girls were high paraplegia, but they managed to go to school on their own by using the wheelchairs and with the help of the school bus driver. They could go to the toilets by themselves and happily perform the flag dances together with their classmates. Can we image these happening in china? Are the infrastructure and people’s minds advanced enough to let the disabled fully involve in society, independently live and gain confidence, dignity and happiness among the crowd?
Never be deceived by the titles like The Pain of Wenchuan Shapes a New China. We still need to reflect on ourselves and find out what our true motivation is and whether we are selfish or not.
(Editor: HUO YuQian 霍玉倩)
English Translation by MBL volunteer：YAN YunZhi 严韵致